Strategies to Practice Proactive Self-Care when you’re Desperate

Faith At Work, Leadership, Millennials

Strategies to Practice Proactive Self-Care when you’re Desperate

Ever feel like you’re backed into a corner?  Discouraged? Not certain where to turn?

As leaders, we end up there periodically, either in our personal or professional lives, don’t we?  When we are in this “desperate” place, it’s not easy to prevent the negativity from spreading – to our family members, our colleagues, yes, even to those who look up to us for leadership guidance.

In Millennials Matter,  the section “Practicing Proactive Self-care,”  lists some action steps that we as mentor and coaches to take with emerging leaders who are struggling to overcome feelings of negativity:

  • Break the Chains of Negative Thinking – become more aware of your thoughts.
  • Deal with your Dark Side – bring your dark moments into the light with a trusted mentor.
  • Establish a rest rhythm – create time for reflection.

Over the years I’ve learned to appreciate the lessons I’ve learned in these backed-into-the-corner times. This is often when God provides wisdom, healing, and discernment – even for us in business!

If you find yourself in a difficult place right now, or you know of someone else who’s struggling, I hope this poem, which came to me during one of my backed-into-the-corner seasons, will bring peace and restoration.

You can also watch a video inviting people to read the poem on Youtube HERE.


Jesus, You bring Good News to the poor.

I am poor, drawing on my own limited knowledge and resources.

I desperately cry out for your riches,

so I may live abundantly in your promises.


You proclaim liberty for the captives.

I am a captive, constrained by the chains that keep me in bondage.

I urgently search for your fearless freedom,

so I can dance victoriously in your grace.


You announce recovery of sight to the blind.

I acknowledge that I am blind, unable to see your truths, your majesty, your reality.

I hunger for your cleansing touch,

so I may see clearly, not clouded by the world’s ways.


You declare freedom for the oppressed.

I agree I am oppressed, enslaved by my own visions of importance & fame.

I crave liberation from my delusions of grandeur,

so I may walk without restraint in your presence.


You command healing for the sick.

I am sick, powerless to heal myself spiritually and emotionally.

I long to be renewed in heart, soul, and mind,

so I  can  feast  on your wholeness.


You pronounce restoration for the broken hearted.

My heart is broken, divided between so many desires.

I desperately hunger for your touch to heal my heart.

so I may hear your voice and walk hand-in-hand with you. 

(Based on Luke 4:14-21 & Is. 61:1-2, Is. 58: 1-15)

Danita Bye Millennial Matters BIO:

DANITA BYE, M.A. is a leadership and sales development expert serving on the Forbes Coaches Council. She has a master’s degree in transformational leadership, with valuable experiences ranging from a sales leader at Xerox Corporation to private equity ownership.

Danita is the founder of Sales Growth Specialists and has served on the boards of private Christian universities. She is a mother of three millennials and is passionate about inspiring business leaders who see investing in their millennial leaders as a key business growth and succession strategy, integral to their leadership legacy.

Danita is a catalyst to help experienced leaders gain an understanding of the importance of their role in shaping young leaders. Her vision is to energize and equip leaders of character with the skills and tools to coach millennials, our future leaders. She believes that leaders build leaders.

Danita writes a leadership blog at, which provides tips, tools and talk tracks for those who mentor emerging leaders. Danita and her husband Gordon have been married for over thirty years and live on a ranch in North Dakota.

This article featured in my September Newsletter

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  • Peggy L. Kennedy
    Posted at 08:31h, 06 September Reply

    I needed to see,hear this. Praise God for His Wonders.

  • Danita
    Posted at 20:10h, 29 September Reply

    Thanks for letting me know that this was an encouragement to you!

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