Emerging Leaders Tag

I’m attending my first ever National Speaker Association Conference in Orlando, Florida. As I’m taking the shuttle from the airport to the convention center, I strike up a conversation with a fellow attendee, Kent. Since he looks like an experienced speaker and author, I ask him about his core message, his forte.  When he says, “Paradoxical Commandments I’m intrigued.

Experienced leaders have vast amounts of knowledge, wisdom, and insight. As we are coaching and mentoring the emerging leader in our life, we are so excited and want to dump all of this on them as soon as possible. Therefore, we talk, and talk, and talk… Next, our emerging leader loses trust. Then, they disengage.  Why? Trust is at its lowest when we talk 75 – 80 percent of the time, and listen only 20 – 25 percent of the time.

When I wrote Millennials Matter, I invited a group of emerging leaders to review the first draft and provide feedback. One of the millennial reviewers said: “We can get a million likes, and still feel empty. We need to hear real affirmations from real people in real-time about our gifts and talents. Why? So that we get to know ourselves, how we’re wired, and how we can serve.